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Sep. 19th, 2008 @ 08:48 pm Last chance to express your opposition to the so-called conscience rule
Current Mood: anxious

[info]naamah_darling tells you exactly why it's an execrable rule, and exactly how you can help defeat it.

Please, please write an email or letter. Even if you just send an email saying nothing more than, "I oppose the proposed provider conscience regulation," that will tell them that one more person does not want this rule to go into effect.

You may not be as passionate about reproductive rights as me. You may not agree, in whole or in part, with my beliefs about birth control. But I hope you can see why it's frightening and infuriating that health care providers could be allowed to prevent adult, informed women from making legal choices about their own personal health.

You have less than a week left on the comment period. I don't care if you're normally not politically active. This is a simple thing to do, and it could be so important. Please write an email for the women you care about - yourself? A relative? Me?

x-posted to LJ
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Sep. 12th, 2008 @ 12:11 pm "What If Bristol Palin Were Black?"
Current Mood: cynical

"Christian-right leaders and conservative stalwarts have praised the decision of Bristol Palin, the daughter of Governor Sarah Palin, to carry her child to term. She is 17 and conceived this child out of wedlock. Now imagine she wasn't the daughter of a prominent Republican politician but an average person. Now imagine she was black.

"What do you think conservatives would have to say about her?"

- Cenk Uygur, "What If Bristol Palin Were Black?"
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Jul. 7th, 2008 @ 08:39 pm Book talk
Current Music: "Dead End Poem," Octavia Sperati

Colonize This! Young Women of Color on Today's Feminism )

Y: The Last Man volume 1(ish) )
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Apr. 24th, 2008 @ 04:26 pm rape prevention: ur doin it wrong
Current Mood: *sigh*

From the front-page article of today's campus newspaper, "UWPD to train students in rape defense":

"One in six women is a victim of rape or attempted rape during her lifetime in Washington state. In order to combat these statistics, the University of Washington Police Department is holding a women’s self-defense class."


Uh, no. In order to combat rape, you teach people not to rape. Within the sexism-fueled rape culture that we live in, that means, first and foremost, teaching men to respect women's sexual and bodily autonomy. Providing women self-defense education so that they can keep themselves from being victimized is a stopgap solution. It can be useful, yes, but is not to be mistaken for the primary method of sexual violence prevention.

Ironic that this article comes along just as I'm reading The Macho Paradox, which describes how we mistakenly place our attention and scrutiny upon (female) victims of sexual violence, rather than looking at men, who commit the overwhelming majority of sexual violence and actually have it in their power to prevent it. Notice how the article is comfortable naming women as the primary/only targets of sexual violence - which is true - but fails to note that men are the primary perpetrators of it. Notice how it makes men, and men's responsibility to prevent themselves and their peers from committing sexual violence, disappear.

To get a sense of how ridiculous this one-sided attention is, check out [info]misia's Open Source Swift Kick to the Balls Project (a satirical response to the Open Source Boob Project). Does it seem absurd that the proposed project puts the onus on men to prevent unwanted/violent attention perpetrated upon their own bodies? How absurd is it that we do expect women to do this for themselves, every damn day?
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Apr. 22nd, 2008 @ 08:39 pm So much YES
Current Mood: fucking entitled fucking men

"On a serious note, when I'm having low self esteem times and I notice I'm doing things to get external validation (especially sexualized validation), I do a little self check in to make sure I actually want to do the thing. Also, while positive external attention can be a nice little ego boost, it can not create self esteem or security. Those, by nature, have to come from inside.

Also also, while I have had friends have ask to feel my chest, and I have said yes, it did not heal either of us of anything. If the wound to your soul can be fixed via a boob grab, then it must have been more of a soul papercut."


Yes, yes, yes. I cannot say it enough. This ties into so many things I believe about women's (lack of) self-esteem and its connection to the objectification of women's bodies. It's just ... yes.

(If you want context, you may follow the link and figure it out. Myself, I don't want to give the dipshit author of the original post in question any extra publicity. On the other hand, this sparkymonster person seems like quite a fine individual.)
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Apr. 22nd, 2008 @ 10:35 am Adam Hughes' Women of DC Comics poster
Current Mood: geeky

Posted here.

On the one hand, this is just a pretty, pretty image. I like Hughes' style, and the way his lines just look ... graceful? I don't know; I don't have the vocabulary to describe it.

There's always a 'but ...' )

As a side note, [info]nenena on LiveJournal evened things up a little by posting this link to male Disney character beefcake. Questionably worksafe, but high-larious. [Edit: Link taken down because the images were posted without artist permission. The artist is David Kawena, and you can find the images here if you have a deviantART account.]
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Apr. 18th, 2008 @ 10:52 am Happy Friday
Current Mood: sleepy

1. The first thing that makes today happy for me actually came out of an unhappy thing - I finally sat down and read through blogs to find out why everyone was pissed off at Amanda Marcotte ... and, well. Once again I am disillusioned at the behavior of many prominent white (female and male) feminist bloggers. Once again an eloquent woman of color has been silenced so forcefully that she has left the feminist blogosphere. It's happened before. I continue to shy away from mainstream feminist blogs. I will not be buying Marcotte's book. At this point, I'm feeling cynical and kind of detached.

But the good thing that came out of this? Following the links and comments led me to rediscover Martin Luther King, Jr.'s "Letter from a Birmingham Jail." I first read this in high school, back when I still didn't Get It - but even then, the words stuck with me. And now, going back, I rediscovered the following passage, which still rings painfully true:

"I must confess that over the past few years I have been gravely disappointed with the white moderate. I have almost reached the regrettable conclusion that the Negro's great stumbling block in his stride toward freedom is not the White Citizen's Counciler or the Ku Klux Klanner, but the white moderate, who is more devoted to 'order' than to justice; who prefers a negative peace which is the absence of tension to a positive peace which is the presence of justice; who constantly says: 'I agree with you in the goal you seek, but I cannot agree with your methods of direct action'; who paternalistically believes he can set the timetable for another man's freedom; who lives by a mythical concept of time and who constantly advises the Negro to wait for a 'more convenient season.' Shallow understanding from people of good will is more frustrating than absolute misunderstanding from people of ill will. Lukewarm acceptance is much more bewildering than outright rejection."*


People often forget that that MLK was a radical.

2. [info]ratzeo came over last night, and we just got to geek out together, me drawing and him DSing ... I like that we can have a good time around each other as well as with each other (as in, when we are actually doing the same thing). All in all, a perfect way to usher in Friday.

3. On a more frivolous and shallow note, my coffee maker shipped from Amazon today and is scheduled to arrive on Monday, whee! Now I just need to, you know, get some coffee to actually make with it.

4. I wish I could be home right now, drawing. I'm really glad I feel that desire.

5. I don't have any plans for tomorrow, and that actually makes me happy. It means I get to do whatever I want, and I don't have to figure out what that is until tomorrow.

* On a slightly irrelevant and totally geeky sidenote, this is a classic example of Lawful Neutral alignment. It is also the reason I dislike Lawful Neutral the most out of the non-evil alignments.
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Apr. 15th, 2008 @ 11:31 am Joss Whedon on the murder of Dua Khalil

Today I found a link to Joss Whedon's commentary on the murder of Dua Khalil, a young woman who was killed almost exactly one year ago. Her death is yet another instance of the abuse of women being treated as a spectator sport - and in the year since, that has not changed. The reason Joss' entry surfaced again is that a charity anthology, Nothing But Red, was written to commemorate Khalil's murder and raise money for Equality Now, and it has just been released.

I never read Joss' entry last year, but I'm glad I found it now. If you are like me and also missed it, I want to bring this it to your attention now for two reasons: the first is that, as to be expected, Joss writes very eloquently about Khalil's death, as well as the pervasiveness of misogyny and sexual oppression.

The second reason is this quote:

"Women’s inferiority – in fact, their malevolence -- is as ingrained in American popular culture as it is anywhere they’re sporting burkhas. I find it in movies, I hear it in the jokes of colleagues, I see it plastered on billboards, and not just the ones for horror movies. Women are weak. Women are manipulative. Women are somehow morally unfinished."


I appreciate that Joss does not use this event as a call to arms for feminism that relies on perpetuating racist and imperialist power differences. In other words, he does not seek to protect women from misogyny by redirecting our malice against non-white men and non-U.S. cultures. Too often, the response - the feminist response, even - to news such as this is one of, "Look how awful they are," and "We should help those women over there." Villainizing minority men, infantilizing minority women, and ignoring the whole heap of steaming bullshit that is sexism in the United States.

I do not feel safe from misogyny for being born in the U.S. In fact, when my so-called "liberal" or "progressive" male peers decry "foreign" sexism but refuse to acknowledge the necessity of combatting or even acknowledging their own privilege - I don't feel very safe at all. Finding one more male ally who not only challenges his male privilege, but also refuses to soothe his ego by relying on his racial privilege, gives me some hope.
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Apr. 1st, 2008 @ 08:35 pm Meta rec
Current Mood: thinky
Current Music: "The Minnow & The Trout," A Fine Frenzy

Head on over to [info]oyceter's (LJ) post on alpha males in fiction for some great discussion. The original post is specifically about mainstream heterosexual romance novels, but of course the alpha male trope shows up in romantic relationships in all kinds of fiction. It's a great read for those coming from feminist perspectives but who enjoy fictional romance - and who know why I put that "but" in there.

I was particularly glad to find this in light of my earlier entry about my struggles with fictional portrayals of "romantic." Not only is it nice to find people who agree with me in a hey-I'm-not-alone way, but it helped clarify some things in my head.

Some highlights )

My additions )
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Mar. 9th, 2008 @ 12:23 pm Andrea Smith denied tenure
Current Mood: pissed off

Assistant Professor Andrea Smith was denied tenure by the University of Michigan. The press release regarding the denial can be found at http://www.woclockdown.org/ImmediateRelease-TenureForAndreaSmith.pdf in PDF format, or pasted on La Chola.

Smith is one of the foremost indigenous feminist scholars and activists working today. By that I don't mean that she's only important to "indigenous feminism" - she's vital to both indigenous rights and feminism. Writing about indigenous women is indigenous scholarship. Working for indigenous women is feminist activism. If either of these groups forgets how necessary she and her work are to their movements, they're cutting themselves off at the knees.

Note that, while the Program in American Culture recommended Smith for tenure,
the Department of Women's Studies, where she is jointly appointed, did not. As a result, the College of Literature, Sciences, and the Arts also gave a negative tenure recommendation.

You can read in the press release about Smith's publications and service and nomination for the Nobel Peace Prize. I personally first heard of Smith when taking a course by Luana Ross, who was one of Smith's former professors. We were assigned Smith's book, Conquest: Sexual Violence and American Indian Genocide, which analyzes the ways in which sexual violence was and is central to the genocide of indigenous peoples in the United States. This book is insightful and infuriating, and I recommend it to anyone. If you know me offline, I will loan you my copy.

In conclusion? This fucking bites.

(hat-tip: Oyceter)
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Feb. 4th, 2008 @ 07:35 pm Time to take stock
Current Mood: determined
Current Music: "Turn Off the Light," Nelly Furtado

I think I'm in a rut. )
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Dec. 18th, 2007 @ 11:55 am Return of "The Nice Guy"
Current Mood: *eyeroll*

Hey, girls! Don't you know that when a guy provides you with emotional intimacy, it is your obligation to be "reciprocating, in kind, with physical intimacy"?

No? Well, that's why you can't find a Nice Guy to date, obviously. Because don't you know, having an emotional connection with someone is only and ever important to a dude for the sake of getting at the poontang.

Yeah, it's more "Women are shallow bitches! I only treat you well because I expect sex in return! ... Women must not like me because I'm too nice, right?" ranting from another socially backward privilege-boy drowning in his own sense of entitlement. The letter itself is pretty painful to read, with the amount of "That? I deserve that because I have a penis" going on.

Luckily, Mightgodking's response makes it all worthwhile. And Ragnell has a more productive and slightly less snarky breakdown of The Nice Guy here.

I admit that The Nice Guy is kind of a sore spot for me, because I had plenty of personal experience with the phenomenon back in high school. And then, interestingly enough, my relationship with [info]ratzeo started out with some of the same structure that Nice Guys attempt to exploit - he was my best friend who also helped me through some dating woes. But then (shockingly!) he did not expect me to fall over myself with gratitude at the fact that he was a decent person, nor to express that gratitude with sexual favors. In fact, when we started dating a long time later, we entered into a mutually respectful relationship that wasn't predicated on him fostering a false sense of guilt-ridden indebtedness in me. And, wonder of wonders, that made me a lot happier. Who knew.

So, yeah - as someone who has been inflicted with The Nice Guy, as someone whose partner could have been a Nice Guy but wasn't, and as someone who herself was socially awkward and could have become a Nice Girl - I have no sympathy. Guys like this neither need, nor deserve, anything beyond a bit of social education and their own right hands.
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Sep. 20th, 2007 @ 03:56 pm Upcoming events

V-Day: Until the Violence Stops )

Queer Night at the Movies )

Q Center and GBLTC Welcome Luncheon )

Violence Prevention Resource Event )

The Epidemic of Violence Against Native Women )

Dating Safety 101 )

The Masculinity Dilemma in Violence Prevention )

Faye Wattleton )
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Jul. 30th, 2007 @ 02:09 pm "Prostitute" does not mean "worthless"

Jeffrey McKee was convicted of raping two women, but received a lighter prison sentence because his victims were prostitutes.

Luckily, there are people in the Washington state judicial system who aren't total fuckwits.

Read the article for the full story, but here are a few notable quotes that illustrate the persistent sexism and victim-blaming in public attitudes towards sexual violence. Sure, society says, we'll protect the victims of rape - but only if you're the right kind of victim.

Newsflash: working as a prostitute doesn't actually reduce the gravity of a rape )

x-posted to Shrub.com
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Jun. 15th, 2007 @ 11:53 am Leaving on a jet plane ...

One day left before [info]zinjadu and I flee the country (breathe, Dora, breathe!) and I'm just about ready to go. All my stuff is ready and just needs to be put in my suitcase. I've even managed to work within the regulations on liquid substances (which, by the way, includes liquid gel cap OTC medicines because they're semi-liquid - which begs the question, what would happen if I packed a cat?). Everything is in order and ready to go.

Now if my debit card would just get here already, dammit.

As you might expect, I'm going to have very little Internet access for the next two weeks. I'm going to try to check my email every few days or so, because I should be getting a notification about my prospective job soon. But besides that, I think I'd rather spend my time seeing the sights - so that means no blog-reading (gasp!). So if there's anything you want to talk to me about, speak now or for-two-weeks hold your peace.

The prospect of going blog-less for a couple of weeks meant that I was eager to get my fill of blogs ... but also a little hesitant, because most of the worthwhile content I read is also rage-inducing in one form or another, and I don't want to start my vacation off on a sour note. But the Internet gods must be smiling on me, because I found a lot of things that pleased me:

links! )

Okay, that's it from me for now. See you in July!
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Jun. 2nd, 2007 @ 06:44 pm Preventative measures against violence [Women and Violence, Part 9]

[This is the final part of my series on Women and Violence, which I wrote as a project for a Women Studies course I took this quarter. For an explanation and information on my intentions with this series, please see the introduction.]

I realize that a quarter-long series of articles about violence against women can be depressing, and I'd like to end this on an optimistic note.

Unfortunately, I don't have The Solution to violence against women. Even I don't have delusions of being that wise. ;) But - and here I'm engaging in a bit of hubris - I believe in the power of language to educate and agitate for change. That's one of the reasons I chose to undertake this project, and why I choose to blog in general. Writing and dialoguing is important. It's powerful. It's consciousness raising in cyberspace.

Fighting the roots of violence )

x-posted to Shrub.com
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May. 29th, 2007 @ 10:26 pm Voice and silence [Women and Violence, Part 8]

[This is part of my series on Women and Violence, which I am writing as a project for a Women Studies course I'm taking. For an explanation and information on my intentions with this series, please see the introduction.]

In "The Transformation of Silence into Language and Action," Audre Lorde writes the following description of her thought process when faced with a potential diagnosis of cancer:

[...] and what I most regretted were my silences. Of what had I ever been afraid? To question or to speak as I believed could have meant pain, or death. But we all hurt in so many different ways, all the time, and pain will either change or end. Death, on the other hand, is the final silence. And that might be coming quickly, now, without regard for whether I had ever spoken what needed to be said, or had only betrayed myself into small silences, while I planned someday to speak, or waited for someone else's words. And I began to recognize a source of power within myself that comes from the knowledge that while it is most desirable not to be afraid, learning to put fear into a perspective gave me great strength.

I was going to die, if not sooner then later, whether or not I had ever spoken myself. My silences had not protected me. Your silence will not protect you." (41)


The meaning(s) of silence )

x-posted to Shrub.com
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May. 25th, 2007 @ 08:08 pm Policing women through violence [Women and Violence, Part 7]

[This is part of my series on Women and Violence, which I am writing as a project for a Women Studies course I'm taking. For an explanation and information on my intentions with this series, please see the introduction.]

In an article titled "'Femininity' and women's silence in response to sexual harassment and coercion," Kathleen V. Cairns describes how harassment of women functions as a method of social control over women's behavior:

[O]vert practices include the public, ritual shaming of women in the form of catcalls, lewd remarks and so on which serves to demonstrate the fact that 'any man or group of men feels entitled not only to pass judgement on any woman walking along minding her own business, but also to announce it to her' [Kotzin 1993: 167]

[...]

In patriarchy, women are taught to accept that their femaleness, their simple presence, are responsible for men's behavior towards them [...] It becomes women's responsibility to police themselves, to keep their dress, comportment and presence within approved limits to avoid 'provoking' harassment. (96-7).


This dynamic - of men acting with impunity to judge women, and women shouldering the blame for men's actions towards them - can be applied to other forms of gender violence as well. What it comes down to is the way that negative reactions from men - or even the anticipation of those reactions - function to police women in everything from their appearance to their behavior.

the lessons women learn )

x-posted to Shrub.com
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May. 23rd, 2007 @ 10:53 am See if you can follow the logic on this one ...

Reading the anti-feminist whinings of entitlement-junkies tends to get my blood boiling, but there are a few things that are just too funny to get mad about. Like, say, talking about men who are misandrist - and using Joss Whedon as your example. Because, y'know, if ever there was a man who loathed his own gender, and relegated male characters to the same sort of trivializing and degrading roles that misogynist creators use for female characters, it's Joss. All those well-rounded male characters with unique forms of internal strength and ingenuity, damn him.

He must be a misandrist in the same way Jackson Katz is. Or the same way that Tim Wise hates white people. God forbid someone call out their own group on their privileged bullshit.

(Does that make me self-hating, too, when I examine straight privilege or classism? Oh, but wait, clearly I hate men and white people too, right? So I guess I'm limited in my social circle to lesbians of color. Who better not be wealthy, damn them.)

Or maybe, just maybe, this is another case of the normalization of oppression, in which abuses of members of disadvantaged groups are ho-hum, but the slightest infraction against the privileged group is ZOMG! SUCH A CRIME. If members of a group are not "allowed" to do something, it's that much more of an offense when they do. Criticizing a dude's privilege? That's surely as grievous as belittling misogyny or commodifying rape!

That's why, you see, white kids who beat up a black kid are charged with battery, but black kids who beat up a white kid in relatiation are charged with attempted murder. Oh, and those nooses? Just a joke, you oversensitive PC-nazis!

*sigh* Sometimes there's too much ignorance in the world to comprehend.

Oh, well - I guess I can just go spit in a white man's coffee and make up for the history of colonialism or something.
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May. 11th, 2007 @ 08:14 pm The obligatory FGC post [Women and Violence, Part 6]

[This is part of my series on Women and Violence, which I am writing as a project for a Women Studies course I'm taking. For an explanation and information on my intentions with this series, please see the introduction.]

Yesterday some of my classmates gave a presentation about female genital cutting (though the terminology they used, and which is probably more familiar to people, is "female genital mutilation" - a difference which I'll address later on). It's an important, worthwhile issue, and I'm glad our class is addressing it.

Still, every time the topic comes up in conversation I cringe inwardly.

Here's why )

x-posted to Shrub.com
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